People prefer security.
Change is always good, and although many change-enforced situations hurt at the beginning and can come to us as a shock, shortly after we realise that something better comes up on our horizon. The biggest fear we face is being honest with ourselves.
He who lives among wolves learns to howl.
We choose to follow convenient paths of what is expected of us. We imitate and finally become like the people who surround us, fearing to be seen as different and more daring. Inside-the-box feels good and safe.
People who hate versatility and change love the status quo. Change scares them. Change is dangerous to them, simply because it requires them to do things differently, and that’s hard. Let’s face it, lots of people like the status quo because it doesn’t require to leave their comfort zone. The comfort zone is called that for a reason – because it’s comfortable.
But you know by now, that being comfortable means that nothing new and life-changing ever happens.
Things we want to say out loud, help we want to ask… we often tame in ourselves because we are afraid of rejection/mocking/being judged. (I should be regretting writing posts like this one on my company’s blog – as it has nothing to do with PR, really – maybe only with my own as a founder).
We love reading Paolo Coelho’s type of motivational quotes on Facebook. We love movies with full of pathos sound effects, touching us so deeply, that after leaving the cinema we immediately decide we want to a) save the penguins from the bad, bad seals b) commence journey to the wild, quitting our corporate job, effective immediately, c) save the earth d) follow our dreams
…but it’s all a flash in the pan.
We fear of listening to ourselves, opening up, becoming vulnerable and truly.. connecting. Most people feel change will have an immediate negative impact on their life or career. We reject people who want good for us, trying to push us to new, often uncomfortable, sometimes previously unknown directions. We build big shard of indifference, pretending that we are happy with what we’ve got and where we are.
I don’t feel happy anymore with this person but I’m afraid of being alone…
I’m sick of being a banker but I don’t know how to do anything else and start from the scratch…
So we stand still, waiting to get lucky.
“Books and minds only work when they’re open” (J. Dewar)
When we are young, we believe everything is possible so we dream big and strong. We dare to be successful with our careers and social lives and do not want to compromise on anything. Our minds are limitless.
But as the time goes by, we stop listening to ourselves and we settle for mediocrity.
Mostly, change is as inevitable as rain in the spring. Some of us just put on our raincoats and splash forward, some of us choose to stay home, a few admirable nuts shed their clothes and cavort in the yard, and some people go out and get deeply, resentfully, and miserably wet. And no matter what, the rain falls.
Change is learning. Learning is growing. Growing is living. So LIVE.